We want to embark on OUR journey and even before we start, OUR spouse says No or you hear words that drain away all your motivation and excitement and you never even start. Sound familiar?
Or you have committed and even started, but your family does not support you and even blames you for spending time to take care of yourself? Believe me, I know from my own experience how devastating and confusing it feels (sigh🙄). It feels like a fight. It feels like the world is against you. Familiar?
It's so easy to give in and give up. After all, it is my family and I love them. I do not want to disappoint them. So it's 'better' to be on their side.
If you find yourself in this struggle, then this message is for you. Let's discover what to do when the people closest to you are not supportive.
If you'd rather watch, here is an 11-min video I recorded.
Truth of the truths: allow everyone to be where they are.
Your truth is your truth. Their truth is their truth.
They relate to you as the past you. They have not built a relationship with the new you. That is ok.
Consider you are starting a new business and your family doesn't support you and won't buy your product. Will you quit your business? Probably not. You have a plan, you have your vision, and you just keep going.
Think about your health and life journey as your business venture.
With that said, first and foremost, allow them to be who they are and where they are. Then, build your path with these three truths.
Where do I start?
Truth 1. CLARITY
Have clarity on what you want, why you want it, and what you are doing to do to get there.
It's like planning a trip to Europe. You know it has been your dream to see Paris, you buy airline tickets, you plan a train ride, and so on.
Remember, when you begin a bold vision, you have to sustain your belief in it before other people can.
How do I keep my vision alive and not give up?
Truth 2. COMMUNITY
Align with the community whose behavior is your desired behavior, whose belief is so solid that you naturally start strengthening your own belief.
You have heard the expression: you become the average of 5 people you spend the most time with. Spend time with people who are going in the same direction you are.
It is essential for growth and sustainability.
Remember, who we understand ourselves to be is dramatically affected for better or worse by those we hold closest to us.
Truth 3. COURAGE
Be brave and persist. Be courageous to stand for your truth (be in integrity with yourself). Develop the courage muscle. Use your community to support you. Use the five-second rule of 5-4-3-2-1 and just do the action. Be proud of yourself. Celebrate small wins.
Remember, non-supporters can make you bitter or better, but not both.
Love others the way they are.
Love yourself through the journey.
Honor your why by seeking clarity, aligning with your community, and being courageous.
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BTW, last Wednesday, I trained our Club members on How to Effectively Love Yourself.
I taught these five important tools:
The training is available in the recording. To learn about the Club and access the recording, click HERE.
and discover if I can be of support for you to break through pain, overwhelm, and overweight into strength, balance, and power.